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The mayor of Bozeman, Chris Mhel, is accused of being overly aggressive by multiple people. This is a copy of an email I received in regards to that.
September 7, 2020 Labor Day Members of the Bozeman City Commission, Because I cannot remain silent if I deserve to have any claim to continue to care about the rights, safety, equitable and fair treatment of women to advance gender and all equity in our community, I will do this as an individual and not on behalf of any organization. Preparing and sharing this Statement does not give me any pleasure and I hated to have to go through the pain of these records and memories again in order to respond. These statements of harmful and harassing treatment toward Bozeman City employees by our Mayor strongly influenced me that we who have suffered or witnessed this must step forward. I strongly urge everyone who is reading or listening to this - PLEASE review ALL the attached Freedom Of Information Act (FOIA) documents from our current and former City Employees – many from women, but not all – to understand this: those leaders appearing to be women-supporting, liberal or even progressive men who are in power can and in this case with the Mayor, have profoundly harmed our City’s workforce including the 1st and only women City Manager, many have said was our most successful ever. And most employees who all want the Mayor removed. From the Bozeman City Commission Agenda for September 8, 2020, the FOIA Documents – open to read all 3 sections plus those from Commissioner Cunningham (total of 4): Discussion of Documents Related to Public Records Requests (Sullivan) I am writing and speaking about my experiences with Chris Mehl, from and since April 19, 2018. This date is when a leader of a local women’s business organization and I had a meeting with then Deputy Mayor Mehl (DM) to share and exchange around our City for CEDAW women’s human rights campaign to create safe, equitable and fair employment and living conditions in our community. Our meeting goal, quite simply in the same manner of our successful Equal Pay for Equal Work Resolution adopted by the City three years earlier, was to meet with each City Commissioner for an opportunity to educate, exchange around and get their advice about our proposed policy to advance women’s human rights in the workplace, schools, and our overall community through adoption of an Ordinance or Resolution. Over 70 Cities large and small throughout the U.S. have done this. Because at that time Mayor Andrus chose not to meet with any representatives of our campaign, the DM indicated he would stand in for the Mayor and learn more himself. I also indicated to the DM that there would be another representative from the local women’s business organization - a part of our City for CEDAW Leadership team who would join me. In our thorough preparation to meet with the DM – as with every Commission and community leader - we reached out to other current and former City leaders about how to approach and what best to say. At that time, I was warned by several of them that the DM “had a temper” and then I also shared that with this leader accompanying me, having no idea what that information could truly mean to each of us and our lives following. We spent an hour on April 19, 2018 from 4:00-5:00 pm at Sola Café, at the request of the DM, with several other customers nearby in the back section. While we had a carefully prepared outline of talking points of why we are requesting this now and how a policy to advance the human rights of all women and girls could benefit the City of Bozeman, we of course wanted to hear and address the DM’s questions and concerns. This meeting began by the DM with heated accusations made in anger and outrage to us in a shouting communication style about the fact that we dared to ask for this policy and goal – especially since the DM stated the Mayor already said she wouldn’t meet with our Campaign and didn’t we already have an Equal Pay Resolution. He then moved into accusatory rapid talking points ranging from how adopting a women’s human rights ordinance would cost at least $500,000 to conduct a City needs assessment to identify and address evidence of measurable gender and other discrimination and how could we waste the City’s tax dollars that way…..and the fact that children in our City have food insecurity and why should we fund a study instead of feeding the children? In trying to even answer or explore options we couldn’t get a word in for the first 30-45 minutes of his berating, bulling, belittlement and harassing “leadership style” that appeared to communicate his job was to intimidate and diminish us to the point that we would never return to the Mayor or City nor continue to educate and advance for any further women’s human rights. As we tried to both indicate that such a study was important to identify evidence of where gender and other discrimination existed in the institutions and sectors of our City and also recommend best practices to eradicate them – as recently well demonstrated by the Bozeman United for Racial Justice which only required 2 Marches of thousands of Bozeman residents and we congratulate them! – would cost from $10-20K and we already planned to ask other organizations for their support including MSU, Women’s Foundations, donors and more! In addition, if there was great urgency about Bozeman children’s food security, our Campaign’s issue as well - the results of our study was intended to strategically focus scarce tax dollars on which of our children and families needed assistance. And from lived experience - we know many of them were likely from single parent, underpaid, women-headed households. And that a gender analysis that included race/ethnicity, income, age and more would benefit all city policies, strategic planning, budgeting and employee workplace conditions beyond pay equity disparities to include prevention of sexual, racial harassment and other corrosive and harmful behaviors. But the DM couldn’t or wouldn’t listen until the final few minutes of this torturous hour when we calmed him down and pointed out some of the less costly or free policies other 70 Cities for CEDAW in the US have used to further women’s safety and economic security in their communities. Meanwhile those Sola Café customers and staff also witnessed the DM “leadership style” and more. After he left, we were asked,” who was that?” We said, “that’s your upcoming Mayor.” After the DM left, the volunteer leader and I tried to debrief this experience because this was so shocking - this was way more than a “Temper” issue - and appeared to be a pattern if we needed to be forewarned before meeting with the DM. In preparation for this Statement to the Commission, I needed to review and decided I will share my notes exchanged with my colleague from that DM meeting - written a day later, April 20, 2018: Quite honestly I did not expect the level to which I felt he [DM] was bullying, belittling and setting up so much opposition that he really didn't want to know any answers to the questions; he simply wanted to use them as a chance to humiliate us. I'm very, very angry and very unhappy about what he did; it was totally unnecessary and it was not fitting for a Deputy Mayor and future Mayor of our community. I'm going to be meeting with [another leader] today about their liaison with the School Board and I'm going to let them know some of what happened and get advice. I am drafting a letter this morning to Chris that follows up with Cyndy's email and why the over 20 people that were consulted about this Campaign did not see it as he did, because I don't think again he read this information very carefully. I'm going to ask you to look at it if you don't mind and share it with [ ] when I meet her with her tomorrow before I send it out. I don't want to do anything in anger. So I'm venting a little but you were wonderful and honestly we didn't need to come in with a bargaining position. We were there to learn what concerns he and the other Commissioners have: - I had asked Chris specifically in other emails if "you are able to generally support it", or "what exactly can you support" and that was what I thought the basis of the meeting was going to be about.
And I am feeling at this moment including in the follow-up email that summarizes our meeting content the question of:
Since you have so many objections to Our proposed [Bozeman for CEDAW] Ordinance as a model to achieve gender equity in our city, what is a process or framework that can allow the city to stand for gender equity and the health, dignity and safety of women and girls that is of substance and can be acceptable to the city? The ball is in his court or their court if he's really representing Cyndy Andrus as well. But she would not behave this way - that is for sure. You were great and I couldn't have done it; I couldn't have stood it without you. I honestly did not know that this is what his "temper" is about and it's bad for the City of Bozeman. Thank you again and so sorry we both had to put up with this and quite frankly it's why we need a city ordinance when you have leadership or bosses who treat women like this. It's called gender-based verbal violence and sexual harassment and we are Me Too. This is what happened, and now I’d like to add why this matters and why our City leadership and community should care and act. Even though I and the other leader have had to handle other very sexist and sexual harassing situations as well as gender-based violence over our lives, much like every woman – including death threats when I co-founded a program and shelter to address gender-based violence now called The HAVEN – the harsh impacts of DM’s verbal abuse was compounded because of his power as the DM and as incoming Bozeman Mayor. Having never received any apology or clarification about his “leadership style” or any follow up whatsoever from the DM, we drafted several versions of our own follow-up letter to the DM. This letter became so diplomatic to save our women’s rights cause and thus did not adequately address his abuse of power in order to avoid retaliation. Finally we resolved to focus our goal to create and institutionalize policies advancing women’s rights and safety and, now ironically, we decided not to send our letter to the DM. We never even thought this opportunity would occur to address what we now know is a long-standing pattern of the DM’s verbal form of gender-based violence. Instead, what I did is reach out to other leaders in our community to get their advice and felt afterwards that we were not taken seriously and always, in many ways spoken or by inaction, were told the DM’s contributions were more important than his “temper.” But we also learned from other discussions that we were not the only women affected by this pattern of abuse and fear of retaliation. When Mayor Andrus did reach out to me to schedule a meeting in June, 2018, about our City for CEDAW women’s human rights campaign following a City Commission meeting presentation earlier in May with over 100 supporters and nearly 1,000 signatures on our Petition, she wanted the DM to be present. I refused and told her why (correspondence in the other documents) and, upon request, followed up with Mayor Andrus in a lengthy phone call to provide specific examples and details from the meeting with the DM on April 19th. We were grateful she didn’t include him in that meeting. Another result both of us decided for ourselves and the Cities for CEDAW campaign after this April 19th meeting was either to not ever work or meet with the DM or at least always have 3-5 people present to prevent his harmful behavior from bullying and attempting to intimidate us again. Sadly, I also substantially reduced my and our expectations of what could be achieved for the creation of an Ordinance or Resolution to advance women’s human rights as Bozeman policy since that meeting. And as the DM moved into the role of Mayor, this was another way to prevent his attacks. Again, at the painful expense of the most vulnerable women we wanted this human rights policy, education and research to serve. The other volunteer leader quit working with the Equal Pay Resolution and this organization in order to not have to work with Mayor Mehl. She has shared her own story to this effect. Our lived experience as women, men and non-binary people of sexual, racial and/or other harassment and related violence in paid or volunteer workplaces and community leadership - along with the emerging research which is so badly needed here for the City and other workplaces - is now becoming more understood about its breadth and depth. We also know from the #ME TOO Movement that liberal White men – especially when holding the most prominent positions - can present as supporters of women and progressive causes, but do NOT walk their talk. After reading – and I so strong urge everyone who is reading or listening to this, PLEASE review ALL the attached the FOIA documents from our current and former City Employees – many from women, but not all – to understand this: those leaders appearing to be women-supporting, liberal or even progressive leaders who are in power can, and in this case, the Mayor has profoundly harmed our City’s workforce including the 1st and only women City Manager, who many have said was our most successful top Administrator ever. And this “leadership style” has been experienced by other current and previous Commissioners, members of Citizen Advisory Boards, business owners and many more we will never hear from who are also afraid to come forward because if the Mayor is not removed, they will be afraid of retaliation as am I and my colleague. Thinking about future City policies that advance gender and other equity, diversity and inclusion in our community and its workplace, how can anyone feel secure, much less “welcome” in their desire to contribute to our City, as a volunteer or employee, when they learn about this fully documented, unprofessional behavior of our Mayor in violation of the City’s own policies - carefully demonstrated over 2 years with extensive evidence in the FOIA documents by former City Managers Andrea Surratt and Dennis Taylor - if then no substantive action is taken? Now my colleague and I know – the Mayor’s "leadership style" as he defines this – was never only targeted at us, but directed widely, impacting a lot of women at all levels of employment and in our community, including current and former Commissioners, with all harmed in some way. I truly regret that we did not send our fully detailed letter of DM’s bullying, abusive and gender-based harassing treatment to the Mayor and other City leaders two years ago, or had been encouraged to file an Ethics Board complaint, but we believed it would probably be used against us and the organizations we cared about. I ask the City Commissioners on behalf of all who have suffered, been diminished, been humiliated, been afraid and been denied their ability to work in safety and dignity, to change our City’s elected Mayoral leadership now. Thank you, Jan Strout (she/hers) Bozeman, MT
CMV: Hollywood rom-coms, chick flicks and mainstream romance movies all serve to pacify women’s demands of a plugged-in Alpha (in practice, a Better Beta or Beta Bux)
I’ll try and keep this one a bit shorter (!) than my last life story essay…ah shit it’s already on 3000 words. Look I put effort into my posts I’m quite often seeing this trend on PPD: Young TRPer: WE WERE LIED TO! Everyone said Just Be Yourself! Looks Don’t Matter! Confidence is Everything! Good Guy gets the Girl! Don’t Change! Blue Pill: LOL who the fuck told you this? YT: EVERYONE! Our parents, our family, the media, our church, our teachers, hell even our friends from what they’d heard on the Internet and seen in movies… BP: Why the fuck would you believe them? Why are you so literal minded? Are you an idiot? Are you a ‘sperg? You’re a moron I’m done #terpherpderp I haven’t decided how I feel about these, but I can admit that it must be frustrating for both parties. I’m going to admit that I never bought into the whole Looks Don't Count thing. I don’t get that part of TRP’s complaints; it should be quite obvious from niceguys and justneckbeardthings among just about everywhere else that girls do not generally go for fat guys. Especially now that women are talking so, so much about who’s hot or who’s not. My family did try and encourage me that ‘looks don’t matter’ or rather ‘good women don’t care so much about looks.’ This is slightly different, but actually feeds into the Myth of the Quality Woman, something which Rollo debunked here and I’ll expand upon below: http://therationalmale.com/2011/09/14/afc-social-conventions/
I think the term ‘Quality’ woman is a misnomer. Guys tend to apply this term at their leisure not so much to define what they’d like in a woman (which is actually an idealization), but rather to exclude women with whom they’d really had no chance with in the first place, or mistakenly applied too much effort and too much focus only to be rebuffed.** This isn’t to say that there aren’t women who will behave maliciously or indiscriminately, nor am I implying that they ought to be excused out of hand for such. What I am saying is that it’s a very AFC predilection to hold women up to preconceived idealizations and conveniently discount them as being less than “Quality” when you’re unable to predict, much less control their behaviors. The dangers inherent in this convention is that the AFC (or the even the ‘enlightened man’ subscribing to the convention) then limits himself to only what he perceives as a Quality woman, based on a sour-grapes conditioning. Ergo, they’ll end up with a “Quality” woman by default because she’s the only candidate who would accept him for her intimacy. It becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy by process of elimination.** Taken to its logical conclusion, they shoot the arrow, paint the target around it and call it a bullseye, and after which they feel good for having held to a (misguided) conviction. So why is this a social convention then? Because it is socially unassailable. Since this convention is rooted to a binary premise, no one would likely challenge it. It would be foolish for me to say “Yes Mr. Chump I think you ought to avoid what you think of as Quality women.” Not only this, but we all get a certain satisfaction from the affirmation that comes from other men confirming our assessment of what category a woman should fit into. Thus it becomes socially reinforced. Beware of making your necessity a virtue in making a Quality woman your substitute for a ONEitis idealization.**
My family also basically helped to de-sexualise me. No sex talk in a Christian household, and so I grew up with little interest in it despite per pressure to do so. Hmph. Moving on I had my wake-up call young. Due to being bullied re: Dyspraxia and poor social skills/integration, and my family being overweight, I too started to love to eat, and comfort eat. And I piled on the weight. A hot girl called me a fat spaz when rejecting me when I was 11, still bitter at her but in some ways she helped me, I've since then not once been obese. I have since then flipped all over the physical SMV spectrum from SMV3-SMV8, having had my most major confidence boosts when I started lifting and really getting into the whole athletics department at about 15. I’ve got complacent lately and, after staying quite slim from walking to and from campus every day, am starting to get skinny fat right now ugh...but I've never truly been medically, problematically overweight since then. I knew for a FACT that it’d kill my chances with women. But I definitely did buy into Be Nice as in Be Good Looking and Nice. As in "you should be a handsome, really sweet guy who's head over heels for her; in fact, **being sweet makes you seem MORE handsome". Like Harvey in Sabrina the Teenage Witch (my sister made me watch a lot of Nickelodeon, I also wanted Cartoon network or Fox Kids!) This is also, as I'll demonstrate, a standard Disney Renaissance trope, and I absolutely adored that shit growing up, my secret love (can't think of better phrase for hat fuck). Once you're over 16 that sort of behaviour has you called pussy-whipped by guys, and friend zoned by women. Behaviour becomes a massive part of attraction once a boy becomes a man, and it's the behaviour popular dating advice for men recommends which is such a turn-off. That was a slight digression for context, but it leads onto my main point: The feminine imperative, i.e. the collective social consciousness of our society, has used media (not in a conspiracy fashion, bit in a ‘it’s just the done thing’ fashion) such as Hollywood to remove men’s masculine side and mould them into Beta Buxes. The fashion of which is determined by the audience and media subjects in question. I have a theory that any romance story since the 90s from Disney to rom-coms is fem-centric and used to mould men into Beta Buxes with Oneitis. These fall into 2 types, broadly: • Loser gets the Hot Girl. Example: Every film for geeks and guys ever, Adam Sandler, aw hell see this list by u/whitepoison
Knocked Up, Super bad, American Pie. Hollywood loves stories about betas getting girls. It sells and gives false hope. Growing up with Disney and nick kid shows I saw they loved to give that beta some attention as well. Its not just in movies as well. All the advice I ever got was be as nice as possible and wait for that good girl.
Extending the definition of ‘Loser’ a little to ‘unconventionally attractive, childish goof’ for u/TheKickboxingGuy
Any Kevin James movie. Any Michael Cera movie. Any movie with a goofy, silly, or unconventionally "hot" character who winds up getting the girl like Jonah Hill, Seth Rogen, Andy Samberg, Danny Trejo, Bill Murray, Robin Williams, Adrien Brody, Mike Myers, Jack Nicholson, Will Ferrell, etc, etc. Most comedic movies have main characters winding up with incredibly hot women by the end of the program.In fact feminism even recognizes this trend and passes it off as valuing men for their personalities and valuing women for their looks.
The Loser ‘Mans Up’ to become a good responsible self-sacrificing BB, no longer shallow-and then the Quality Woman learns to love him 'for who he is' despite his (actually respectable) looks
The Hot Guy gets over himself to see what a great catch the average girl is, and thus 'dates down' to the protagonist
In both cases Hypergamy is satisfied by fem-centric frame. Let’s actually elaborate on this. 1) Loser Gets the Girl. R-coms and low-brow chick-flicks typically involve a Loser getting the Girl by Just Being Himself and being a genuinely Nice, Great Guy. This is one of former Nice Guy beta’s in TRP’s major compaints; this isn’t how reality works. Girls go for hot, successful, charismatic guys with their shit together (and often wealthy, but never destitute). But what's interesting is that it's a double-edged sword of fem-centrism! You see, there is an explicit way that this man's true self and nice-ness/ future greatness is demonstrated-it's Beta Game by becoming a plugged-in Beta Bux. Let’s assume Loser means precisely that; at the start, he's a loser by mainstream social standards. He's going nowhere with his job/career, he’s often a college drop-out, he’s somewhat out of shape (ranging from decisively fat to ‘beer belly’ or ‘the college fifteen’) he's hooked on beer, pizza and videogames/porn to hide from the realities of being an adult, as such his relationships suck. He’s also usually shallow as fuck-wants hot girls, leading female actress is the love of his life but 'out of his league'. He presents himself as this big lovable goof, who’d be awesome if he was your son-but is just too much to handle for a relationship. The girls hate him for it, he's a man-child to them. By ‘hate’ I don’t mean explicit hatred, that’s not great material for a light-hearted movie, but obviously the guy isn’t successful with women. Even if he gets a date, he can’t hold down a relationship. The female protagonist also often hates that he values her looks so much, or otherwise shows evidence of ‘toxic masculinity’ such as emotional outbursts to sports or hyper-sexuality (see: shallow, obsessed with porn and hot girls out of his league like he’s still in high school) So she rejects him, initially. She also does this to Jocks-there is always a hot, popular, but stupid, sexist jock who comes onto her that this girl, the Quality Woman, rejects. This is really important; yes girls in the film like the Jock or Alpha, because looks are sexy-to Girls. Stupid Shallow Girls. But the Quality Woman, the female actress, does not. This is the basic feminist model applied in the Disney Renaissance, btw. Like, this is literally the message of Beauty and the Beast: Gaston is a narcissistic douche, and despite hordes of other women flocking to him, that makes him ugly to the intelligent Belle, considered the most beautiful girl in town. Quality Women pick men who are not shallow and humble or entitled. The Beast used to be a Gaston, but then he became humble, lost his ego and bitterness, and sacrificed himself for Belle. I ate that shit up when I was a kid, and shall expand upon that shaming mechanism of the feminine imperative in part 2. So even in high school dude-bro movies and sit-coms such as The Simpsons; as the film progresses, our lovable goof 'mans up' and show his 'real depth’, going out of his way to show how much he loves her, overcoming his base sexuality and boyish needs in favour of the responsibilities of man. This was covered in Aristotle’s Poetics ugh wish I could remember the term anyway this is the typical ordeal that the man must face, overcoming his harmartia to be a man-child and becoming a good self-sacrificing Beta Bux for society, as a Real Man does. From this boys and young men struggling with women learn that girls value Beta traits, Oneitis, Masculine HonouResponsibility and commitment over anything else. Even hot girls with options. This leads to absolute hell for average 16 year old guys, who can't understand why girls go for good looking, often moderately narcissistic jocks who are (allegedly) sexist, shallow, sex-obsessed and irresponsible, and often treat them as shit. The trope may be slightly adjusted for unconventionally attractive and childish but otherwise responsible male protagonists proving their value by heavy beta Game and showing that they may be a child at heart, but they do have a serious, responsible side, and a sense of duty to a higher cause. E.g. Jack Black, Robin Williams, Will Ferrell 2) Average Girl gets the Hot Guy: The subject of much chick lit and chick flicks, it’s another exercise in Hypergamy and Solipsism. For a rudimentary example of female Hypergamy with little back-story, you may all be familiar with this joke from Inside Out, where the kid’s wife is getting fed up with Dad sucking as a parent, and her Emotions ‘change the channel’ to a fantasy about a Brazilian helicopter pilot (basically Chad) wooing her on a beach-to their delight, of course. Link: https://38.media.tumblr.com/bd4c9cd84eb109a3b8ede0019c7a6422/tumblr_nrre1eosOk1qbsko9o1_500.gif Even higher value men themselves have, in these movies and outside in some cases, been brainwashed by the feminine imperative. I’m taking the basic plot of Bridget Jones as my example for these. In these films, the man is often already Alpha in the way that the Loser was not. He’s got his shit together; he’s quite rich, or stinking rich, (apparently) handsome, successful, and charismatic-but secretly bumbles, especially around women he’s attracted to. E.g. Hugh Grant, Colin Firth. Basically anything with these chumps in it. The over-riding factor is getting these guys to 'lose their ego'. Feminism has always been obsessed with the notion of the over-blown male ego. It’s not so much that they are repulsed by her-she’s not ugly per se, she’s a plain Jane-but ‘circumstances’ prevent them being together. She’s ‘not my type’. He’s ‘a busy man’ and has more important things to attend to. He’s highly desirable, both socially and he has other women on the grapevine. It’s often sold as a class/status divide (which also fits into the Hypergamy of the target demographic, mid 20something to middle-aged women). Nobody’s going to outright say she’s not in his league, because that would kill the fantasy, break the illusion. And if someone DOES say it? See below. But what invariably happens? He falls for her. (Well actually, in Bridget Jones 2 high value guys fall for her, and fight over her in public, falling into a fountain…yeah I’ve seen it) He starts to question whether he’s truly ‘following his dreams’. He can’t stop thinking about her in his workplace, while he’s about to have the company take off, he’s giving the Downing Street address or whatever. (UK Prime Minister’s residence for the unaware) And at some point, the turning point of the film, the Alpha says/does something particularly arrogant, perhaps sleeps with another woman or makes a taboo by calling her ‘Chunky’ ‘Homely’ etc. (A man instantly becomes a misogynist after calling a woman Fat, after all) Of course this pisses off our protagonist no end; she makes a scathing remark about him, possibly publicly humiliates him, and he’s left kicking himself in the foot with shame. “What was I thinking? I’m such an idiot. Why did I say that?” He then has a reformation of character; stops being a player, or so egotistical or shallow, makes even more ostentatious advances to demonstrate his affection-and she doesn’t actually FALL for him, she merely forgives him. But they kiss and make up and get married so happily ever after for (her) them. Obviously we have 50 Shades of GreyGrey as another example of this, Mr Grey being the impossibly Alpha yet troubled man who seeks solace from his hidden complex in the affections of a plain Jane. It is quite obvious that the likes of Christian Grey would be able to date wealthy, upper-class models (um, if he got rid of his abusive streak). But invariably, men like Grey settle (if we base matters off raw SMV). And this is the porno lesson young women learn, and even some older women have internalized thanks to joking-OK-maybe-not mixing it up with actual feminist rhetoric. That Real Men will get over themselves and their big fat ego, committing to/marrying a Real Woman. There is a reason that the ravishment fantasy is so damn popular; a high value man uncontrollable desiring you and wanting to commit to you. Yo Radical One said to me earlier [sic] “what kind of love is it to settle? Love should be intense and passionate” to which my response was:
Well obviously nobody who wants to make a buck sells it like that, mate. It's always "I realised how beautiful and amazing you really are, and what a fool I was to take you for granted", isn't it? with a big snog. Rarely do we see the post-honeymoon sex or attraction, unless it's a flash-forward to the happily-ever-after-house-kids-and-white-picket-fence. And that's what's rammed into both men's and women's heads. He got over himself and realised what a catch she really was. Solipsism and hypergamy fully satisfied for all the women watching.
Lessons for the high value man here: Ego is obnoxious. Shy girls deserve a date. Frumpy girls deserve a date. ‘Downtown girls’ deserve a date. [Billy Joel playing in my head at the moment and when she knooows what she wants, from her ti-ii-iiime] In any case, Good men date down. Conclusions for the tl;dr lurkers:
High value men were brainwashed to becoming Relatable (read: humble) Men who commit to the realistic, Relatable (read: ordinary, read, average/low SMV) women. The decision is sold as overcoming his toxic masculinity; getting over his big fat problematic ego.
Low value men were brainwashed to 'boosting their SMV' in ways which specifically cater PRIMARILY to women’s post-Wall needs, by 'manning up' and becoming a Beta Bux with oneitis. (Implicit scarcity mentality follows, but is not portrayed in the movies of course) The decision is sold as overcoming his toxic masculinity; getting over his Peter Pan complex, growing up and possibly not being so shallow, by literally chasing and breaking an arm and a leg for an ostensibly Quality Woman.
In both cases, it's a means to cater to a woman's individual Hypergamy; it breeds entitlement and solipsism in women, while manifesting unconscious shame in men who do not fulfill women’s current needs (Alphas, omegas and MGTOWs alike.) It also sets men up to take a ‘shot gun’ approach as opposed to a ‘fish net’ approach, as again described by Rollo; they are likely to develop Oneitis, and have fewer options than the women they court. This consolidates fem-centric frame, i.e. gives women power over the relationship, which is required to maintain male disposability and not have betas and omegas go MGTOW.
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